Dating a computer geek
So start taking notes and hold your questions until the end; if some of the advice seems a bit contradictory to what I’ve said elsewhere, just wait. The first question many women would ask is “Why should I be interested in dating a geek? I won’t give you any of the standard fluff answers about how geeks are more loyal and less likely to cheat because they’ll be too grateful (the stereotype of the dateless virgin is outdated…and besides, guys are guys regardless of whether they’re into fantasy football or Final Fantasy) or that they’ll treat you better than the usual Alpha Male types you’re used to (being a geek doesn’t mean you can’t also be a jerk). Geeks spend a lot of time lost in their own heads, which allows for the development of a rich imagination and a shocking level of creativity.The less socially experienced they are, the less likely they are to know what to look for in the first place.Hell, there was one particularly harrowing time in college when I was doing spot illustrations for the campus paper.Knowing how to build a replica of Cyclops’ visor, modding a computer into Portal turret or building Hollywood-quality costumes from Mass Effect may never come in handy… Geeks take interest in a wide variety of subjects and pride themselves in being engaged in the world around them. If you want them to come to you, you are going to have to make it easier on them.Just as geeks love learning and collecting facts, they appreciate a woman who has a brain and isn’t afraid to use it. You have to let them know that you’ll welcome their attention.As obvious as you might think you’re being in letting a guy know you’re interested… This is going to be frustrating to a lot of you, but stick with me here.
They’ll pick up skill sets just because it interests them. That intellectual curiosity and imagination I mentioned earlier? They have played through every possible outcome in their mind and every single one of them ends with laughing and pointing, occasionally with a drink thrown in their face. When you couple that with the occasionally crippling approach anxiety, nerdboys are unlikely to make the first approach.
One girl I’d known in passing stopped in to hang out and chat.
Before too long, the subject had taken the Finally, she mentioned that she had a copy of La Blue Girl up in her room and had I ever seen it before?
Strong eye contact followed by a welcoming smile and open body language will help break through that continuous maelstrom of rationalizations and convince them that come over and introduce themselves.
Hell, you may want to give them the “come here” nod, because they’re likely to not quite understand the “eye-contact, look away, look back and smile” sign. How many times have you been at a bar, party or book store, locked eyes with a hot geeky guy and given him your best come-hither stare, only to watch him turn back to the graphic novels?