Dating guy with kid
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Some women with children do not want any more kids, and this is an awkward conversation to have after you have already exchanged “I love yous” or “I dos.” If you want one or two kids and she already has one or two kids, this is a conversation you should have sooner rather than later.
In addition, if you do not want any (biological) kids of your own, do not assume that just because she has one or more child from a previous relationship that she does not want anymore with you. As a continuation of the above point, one of the hardest changes for many single men who decide to date a woman with a child is realizing they are not in first place. This is a hard adjustment for many men to make because when you’re single and don’t have any kids, you can be as selfish as you want.
That is a personal decision you should figure out long before you involve a woman and her child in your life.
Save the games for the rest of the single people in the world who do not have the responsibility of looking out for the emotional well-being of themselves and their child. I’m always surprised at how few people discuss this topic upfront.
An honest conversation about this should minimize the chances of you making a surprise cameo on a VH1 reality show. Should a man without kids hesitate to date a woman with kids?
When you have someone with kids, the kids come first (as they should) and I can’t compete with that priority. Why should I settle for less than I know I want and deserve. You need to work around the custody and children’s schedule. In my age range many men who are single have had children.
Source: Shutterstock After sharing a guest-post on step-parenting from the step-child’s point of view, one commenter asked an interesting question: “Should a man with no kids be hesitant to date a woman with kids?
Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean that you should rule him out completely.
However, there are some things you’ll want to know before dating a divorced man to ensure this is a journey you want to go on.